The ANGER Gremlin – understand this natural emotion

What is Anger?

Firstly, Anger is a natural emotional response.

We all experience Anger from time to time in our lives. It may feel like a monster or gremlin inside but it is a natural reaction to situations such as feeling frustrated, annoyed, criticized, irritated, threatened or unfairly treated.

For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind

Ralph Waldo Emerson


In short, Anger is a signal that something is wrong.

Anger produces powerful feelings and harmful behaviours when our ‘World‘ feels threatened. It is considered a Primal emotion, reacting to an external source.

However, Anger can often also be a secondary response to another emotion, such as Jealousy, Fear, Insecurity etc. In other words, you feel Angry about the other emotion.  Secondary Anger can hide what the real issue is.

How you express your Anger depends on how well you are able to identify and manage your feelings.

To feel Anger is not always a bad thing as it gives us the opportunity to examine ourselves and why we feel like that. With this insight, it can also act as the motivator to change the situation that we are unhappy about.

Anger becomes a problem when it is affecting you and those around you.

Diminished Anger can damage friendships, personal relationships, family life, opportunities and careers.

However, as well as your mental and emotional wellbeing, Anger can affect your physical health, research shows that it can be linked to High Blood pressure, Heart disease, Cancer, Stroke, Aches & Pains, Fibromylgia, IBS and Stomach Ulcers.

It produces the same physiological and psychological effects as stress.

How can Anger be expressed?              

Anger is different with everyone. We will all have different triggers, varying tolerances to situations, expressive ways and levels, and calming time.
From a mild irritation to a full blown physical fight. Over in a minute or prolonged for years.

Anger can be a short term gain, often leaving the inducer with feelings of guilt towards another or disgust inwardly for their diminished behavior.

Expressions of Anger

Unhelpful Anger can be both verbal and physical.

Anger can be expressed outwardly towards others, physically or verbally.

Verbal – Shouting, Swearing, Threatening, Insulting,
Physical – Hitting, breaking or throwing things, Slamming doors, Physically violent towards others.

When Anger is expressed inwardly it can be self destructive, leading individuals to be self critical and suffer from low self-esteem.

In extreme cases can lead to Anxiety, Depression and Self harm.

 How can Hypnotherapy help with Anger?

Hypnotherapy enables you to access your inner resources and find the best solutions for you to manage your anger.

Anger is often a trigger to something that has caused pain, fear, hurt or discomfort a long time ago. Often you are unaware of this as it is buried and forgotten deep inside your unconscious mind.

Hypnotherapy can help you to find the root cause of the Anger and understand it on a deeper level through the eyes of the ‘Adult’ you. It could be anger that you have held because of someone or something in the past, and you are now directing this hurt towards someone else.

While working at this level of trance, the hypnotherapist is able to help you to change the unhelpful beliefs or thought patterns surrounding this.

 Understanding gives you the key to readdress, reframe and let go.

Hypnotherapy can also help you to deal with some of the symptoms of your Anger such as Anxiety, Self-Esteem, Depression etc.

The hypnotherapist can teach you to put coping mechanisms in place, teach you self hypnosis, relaxing and breathing techniques.

You will not be punished for your Anger, you will be punished by your Anger